Jon & Kate Plus 8 is a reality television show produced in the United States by Figure 8 Films about the Gosselin family, consisting of parents Jon and Kate and their eight children: a pair of fraternal twins and sextuplets. The show follows the family through their daily lives, focusing on the challenges of raising multiple children.
As much of the world knows the Gosselin's have decided to file for divorce. This is my take on it.
Ive been watching it for about a year or so. I'm not a die hard fan but I do like to watch it when its on. I started watching mostly due to curiosity. I was in amazement how they kept the fort down w/two sets of multiples. I also watch because the sextuplets are the same age as McKenzie. Occasionally she will watch with me.
I'm actually tired of hearing about their drama. How high is the divorce rate in this country???? Everyone knows someone who has gone through divorce as a spouse or as a child. They are normal people who grew apart after being together for 10 yrs. People do change whether its for good or bad. Just sadly is their dirty laundry is hung out for the world to see.
I used to love watching them deal with day to day situations you and I go through. Kate left her job as a nurse to tend to her children. They went down to one income. Lots of families do this (to each its own right?). So you saw how they dealt with on mealtimes, managing money, paying bills. Then things starting changing. They received lots of gifts and donations. Personally I think is where the trainwreck begins to start. Jon received a hair transplant and Kate got a tummy tuck - which were both documented on their show. They got trips to NY, Chicago, NC, Disney, Hawaii. Places I know I cant afford to take my children but one day I will. Clothing deals with various brands and designers - GAP, Gymboree, Ed Hardy etc. Yes I know they have 8 kids to support but where do I get any help? I have 2 children and we are living paycheck to paycheck. There are people who are losing their jobs and they get a bunch of freebies because they have 2 sets of multiples???? To me this is absurd. Once the children got older, Kate really started to take care of herself. I'm glad she did and every mom needs to take time to themselves. To me it all started to become Hollywood-ish for me. Next you see them purchasing a 1.1 million dollar home. I understand they needed more space, I cant blame them but they didn't need a McMansion. This is when they both changed.
I don't care who cheated on who. Who doesn't want to be around who etc. But those kids are a top priority. No one wins in a divorce, doesn't matter who filed or wanted it. I only feel for those children. I come from a divorced home, its tough on everyone involved. Its sad to see another family fall apart but its what happens in this country. They are everyday people just like you and I. I do wish that TLC, paparazzi and who ever is spends their day being in their business to give them privacy. If you were getting divorced do you want a camera up in your face asking you questions??? I do hope that Jon and Kate are cordial to each other in front of the children and talking about each other in front of the children. That's not right at all.
There, done and said. I am not going to put in my 2 cents anywhere else about this situation.
Thursday, June 25, 2009
Thursday, June 4, 2009
Since I havent posted in almost a month, I figured it was time to post something. Im trying not make my blogs sound depressing but whats in my mind, is in there.
For starters my BFF, is in an actual relationship. Shes been on dates but has never had a steady b/f. Now at 23, shes finally seeing someone. From my understanding, hes very much a gentleman. He pays for their dates, takes her see the movies she wants to see, even sends her flowers at work. Shes met his family (it was during memorial day - right place, right time situation). He has even dropped the L word to her. I'm very happy for her. I keep joking w/her about all the sweet stuff he does for her makes me want to vomit, but somehow I wish my man would takes notes.
With that being said, I spent the day evaluating my relationship w/my man. We have been through alot and toughed out many situations where both of us could of given up.
Will and I met November 2003. My 'new' roommates at my apartment were his coworkers. We chatted occasionally, but I was way too busy. I was going to school f/t (literally), and work 2 20hr week jobs. I had no free time. I was semi sorta seeing someone at the time (ok we went on one date), so I wasnt interested in moving on w/that guy. Fast forward to the first week of 2004. I was 5 weeks away from graduating from the Broadcasting Institute of MD. I was very focused on my future career. I always wanted to work in tv and movies. I still want to be a music video director. Will was over at my apartment when we were having a apartment meeting (gotta love them). I was mad b/c I didnt have alot of $ so when I bought food it was basically a 'treat'. Someone ate one of my frozen pizzas (trust me I was pretty pissed, my name was written on it). I went off but some how Will kept looking at me the entire time. I guess this is where he started to 'like' me. He says he liked that I was assertive and was determined to be successful (honestly I think its b/c im larger on the top). We chatted a bit that day and a bit of flirting was exchanged. I didnt see him for a few nights after that. With the way our schedules were it was hard to meet up. Funny thing was we both worked at the same mall but never ran into each other. I was working for The Childrens Place and Bath and Body Works and he was at Johnny Rockets.
Speeding up to Jan 8th (yes im sappy, I remember those dates). I didnt have to work that night (yipee) and I stayed at school late working on some projects. I had a pretty stressful day. I came home and he was there. I could tell he liked me. So I did what I do best, I milk it for all its worth. That night there was some hardcore flirting. We both knew we wanted each other. Trust me it was obvious to everyone watching us. Somehow just the 2 of us ended up in the kitchen. Still being super flirtatious, I joked about starting to fight. Somehow we 'fought' and I ended up on the floor with him on top of me. We both looked into each other eyes, thats when we both knew we wanted to be in a relationship with each other. He said he won. I asked what made him think he won. Thats when he kissed me. My heart stopped beating for a hot second. I looked at him and smiled. He knew from then that I wanted to be w/him. One of our friends checked in on us because it was very quiet in that room. Oops! He did end up staying the night that night (yes, what your thinking is what actually happened).
I knew from our first date I wanted to marry him. Yes, very sappy, but I never felt like that towards a man. Well, little did we know that with in the first few months of dating, we would conceive our first child together. Speeding up the Aug 2004. I went to my routine visit w/the obgyn. He informed me that I was expecting and was due in Nov. Trust me I was shocked, wanted to vomit, scared, ashamed all at the same time. I will save the why didnt I know earlier speech until the next blog. We decided that we were going to accept that we were going to become parents and raise the child together. The next 3 months, we found a place to live together, got the babys room together, meet his parents, and made the adjustments we needed to be together. McKenzie was born 11/05/2004 at 11:39a.
About a week after she was born, Will proposed to me. I always knew he would but not when he did. We discussed it very little while dating, mostly because I was not ready yet. He respected that decision. My dad asked when he was going to marry me and Will told my dad if he felt like I was 'the one' he would. He wanted to marry me for me not because of a child we had together. We were married 7/8/06.
I may complain he doesnt help around the house, hes getting on my last nerve, how I cant stand his nascar addiction or the other vices that bother me, but I thank anything and everything thats holy thats hes been by my side the entire time. I dont know who else could stick by me that long and not leave me. I do appreciate the fact that he stepped up to the plate and became a dad. Plus he gave up a job he loved (persona training) to pick up a career that brought in a steady paycheck. Maybe I dont give him enough credit when its due. I do say deep down inside, I wish he would act like how we was when we were dating. We went on dates, spent time together that werent on the opposite ends of the couch, sent sweet text msgs, had lunch together etc. Now balancing work, kids, families, bills etc, it gets harder. Im the first to admit it. I think if you want something done, you need to step up first. Even if its telling how you feel. Thats very hard for me. Im very much a girl that keeps it all bottled up until I crack. Im a work in progress and hopes it may improve my marriage.
As much of the ups and downs we go through, we come out stronger than we were in the beginning.
For starters my BFF, is in an actual relationship. Shes been on dates but has never had a steady b/f. Now at 23, shes finally seeing someone. From my understanding, hes very much a gentleman. He pays for their dates, takes her see the movies she wants to see, even sends her flowers at work. Shes met his family (it was during memorial day - right place, right time situation). He has even dropped the L word to her. I'm very happy for her. I keep joking w/her about all the sweet stuff he does for her makes me want to vomit, but somehow I wish my man would takes notes.
With that being said, I spent the day evaluating my relationship w/my man. We have been through alot and toughed out many situations where both of us could of given up.
Will and I met November 2003. My 'new' roommates at my apartment were his coworkers. We chatted occasionally, but I was way too busy. I was going to school f/t (literally), and work 2 20hr week jobs. I had no free time. I was semi sorta seeing someone at the time (ok we went on one date), so I wasnt interested in moving on w/that guy. Fast forward to the first week of 2004. I was 5 weeks away from graduating from the Broadcasting Institute of MD. I was very focused on my future career. I always wanted to work in tv and movies. I still want to be a music video director. Will was over at my apartment when we were having a apartment meeting (gotta love them). I was mad b/c I didnt have alot of $ so when I bought food it was basically a 'treat'. Someone ate one of my frozen pizzas (trust me I was pretty pissed, my name was written on it). I went off but some how Will kept looking at me the entire time. I guess this is where he started to 'like' me. He says he liked that I was assertive and was determined to be successful (honestly I think its b/c im larger on the top). We chatted a bit that day and a bit of flirting was exchanged. I didnt see him for a few nights after that. With the way our schedules were it was hard to meet up. Funny thing was we both worked at the same mall but never ran into each other. I was working for The Childrens Place and Bath and Body Works and he was at Johnny Rockets.
Speeding up to Jan 8th (yes im sappy, I remember those dates). I didnt have to work that night (yipee) and I stayed at school late working on some projects. I had a pretty stressful day. I came home and he was there. I could tell he liked me. So I did what I do best, I milk it for all its worth. That night there was some hardcore flirting. We both knew we wanted each other. Trust me it was obvious to everyone watching us. Somehow just the 2 of us ended up in the kitchen. Still being super flirtatious, I joked about starting to fight. Somehow we 'fought' and I ended up on the floor with him on top of me. We both looked into each other eyes, thats when we both knew we wanted to be in a relationship with each other. He said he won. I asked what made him think he won. Thats when he kissed me. My heart stopped beating for a hot second. I looked at him and smiled. He knew from then that I wanted to be w/him. One of our friends checked in on us because it was very quiet in that room. Oops! He did end up staying the night that night (yes, what your thinking is what actually happened).
I knew from our first date I wanted to marry him. Yes, very sappy, but I never felt like that towards a man. Well, little did we know that with in the first few months of dating, we would conceive our first child together. Speeding up the Aug 2004. I went to my routine visit w/the obgyn. He informed me that I was expecting and was due in Nov. Trust me I was shocked, wanted to vomit, scared, ashamed all at the same time. I will save the why didnt I know earlier speech until the next blog. We decided that we were going to accept that we were going to become parents and raise the child together. The next 3 months, we found a place to live together, got the babys room together, meet his parents, and made the adjustments we needed to be together. McKenzie was born 11/05/2004 at 11:39a.
About a week after she was born, Will proposed to me. I always knew he would but not when he did. We discussed it very little while dating, mostly because I was not ready yet. He respected that decision. My dad asked when he was going to marry me and Will told my dad if he felt like I was 'the one' he would. He wanted to marry me for me not because of a child we had together. We were married 7/8/06.
I may complain he doesnt help around the house, hes getting on my last nerve, how I cant stand his nascar addiction or the other vices that bother me, but I thank anything and everything thats holy thats hes been by my side the entire time. I dont know who else could stick by me that long and not leave me. I do appreciate the fact that he stepped up to the plate and became a dad. Plus he gave up a job he loved (persona training) to pick up a career that brought in a steady paycheck. Maybe I dont give him enough credit when its due. I do say deep down inside, I wish he would act like how we was when we were dating. We went on dates, spent time together that werent on the opposite ends of the couch, sent sweet text msgs, had lunch together etc. Now balancing work, kids, families, bills etc, it gets harder. Im the first to admit it. I think if you want something done, you need to step up first. Even if its telling how you feel. Thats very hard for me. Im very much a girl that keeps it all bottled up until I crack. Im a work in progress and hopes it may improve my marriage.
As much of the ups and downs we go through, we come out stronger than we were in the beginning.
Friday, May 8, 2009
Can 2 really play this game?
The other night DH called me a hypocrite. Im still trying to figure out why. I personally feel there are certain things I dont want to tell people. Including people I work with. So alot of times I just want people to know what goes on in my bedroom. Which should be fine, but DH is friends w/a co worker of mine and they talk. Im sorry I work with this guy, I dont think he needs to know my sexual prefences. I have every right correct? Apparently I dont.
I am in a moms groups which I love. I never thought I would like them, but I was wrong. Its nice to finally have a set of women who can relate to you. I love my best friend, dont get me wrong, but she lives with her mom, doesnt have sex prior to marriage and doesnt have any children. See where I need someone else to relate to? Well, occasionally ill talk about DH on the moms group. Were all guilty of it, some good some bad. Its mostly to rant and get off our chests. Of course the last year has been hard on me emotionally and I need someone to tell me there is a light at the end of the tunnel. So DH is mad because I complain about him so he thinks that these women think DH is a asshole and wonder why I still stay around. Ok, that may be the case but all of us rant about our spouses. You can just bottle up and hold it in. So hes worried about what other women who hes never met, think of him??? Thats not like him at all, he doesnt care what others think. I just wish he'd get off my case about the moms group. He doesnt like me in it because not only do I talk about him, I also discuss him mom and our lives. Well what else are we supposed to talk about, the weather??? I never understand his method to his madness.
I am in a moms groups which I love. I never thought I would like them, but I was wrong. Its nice to finally have a set of women who can relate to you. I love my best friend, dont get me wrong, but she lives with her mom, doesnt have sex prior to marriage and doesnt have any children. See where I need someone else to relate to? Well, occasionally ill talk about DH on the moms group. Were all guilty of it, some good some bad. Its mostly to rant and get off our chests. Of course the last year has been hard on me emotionally and I need someone to tell me there is a light at the end of the tunnel. So DH is mad because I complain about him so he thinks that these women think DH is a asshole and wonder why I still stay around. Ok, that may be the case but all of us rant about our spouses. You can just bottle up and hold it in. So hes worried about what other women who hes never met, think of him??? Thats not like him at all, he doesnt care what others think. I just wish he'd get off my case about the moms group. He doesnt like me in it because not only do I talk about him, I also discuss him mom and our lives. Well what else are we supposed to talk about, the weather??? I never understand his method to his madness.
Thursday, April 16, 2009
Marriage
Before I was married, anytime I would hear someone talking down about being married, I thought to myself 'then why did you get married in the first place'. As I got older and wiser, now I understand some of it was a joke (we all do it) and some of it was for real. Ive been married for almost 3yrs. It has its ups and downs, just like any other relationship.
Ive also noticed that things really do change when your married. Just the basics include bill sharing, learning eachother home habits, grocery shopping etc. You would think these would be the only things that change. Even if you do live together prior to marriage, things change. Will and I have been living together for almost 5yrs. We got married about 1.5yrs after we moved in together (his dad would joke and say 'why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free'), things definatly changed. Ive noticed there arent so many date nights. I havent been on a kid free event with him since Dec. Id love to spend quality time w/him but we dont find time to. Our 'quality' time is us watching tv with him controlling the remote and what we watch. We sit on opposite ends of the couch. No hand holding, no cuddling etc.
But lately Ive been feeling like hes distant from me. We dont cuddle before we go to bed, its almost a chore to kiss one another goodnight. I guess were just so wrapped up in our lives outside of our relationship (work, friends, kids, you get the hint), that we are just to exhausted to enjoy one another. Last night we were talking and I told him I wanted to DTD last night (those new to the shorthanded, that doing the deed). He basically told me no b/c Riggins is awake and he feels wierd doing that while hes awake. But we used to do that w/Kenzie and pop in a dvd. Fast forward to bedtime. We both head to bed and he starts caressing my back, im thinking 'hell yes, he changed his mind'. Did he? NO! He asked me if I was turned on, I replied yes and he stoped. WTF!!!!!! I just couldnt sleep from that moment, I got up and went into the living room and watched tv until 1230. I just could not fall asleep knowing that I got denied. I understand right now is a stressful time. We are now paying for 2 kids in daycare, and infant supplies. We cant get any type of help (hell, id take a sliding scale instead), b/c were both hard workers and make too much $ for the system. (again I have my own personal beef w/govt assistance) Plus we have more month than money! So I can see why he wouldnt want to do something like that.
But what about my needs? I need more than just physical. I need emotional as well. I need to know I can lean on his shoulder when im having a rough day, when I need time away from the kids, or be able to hold his hand b/c I want to. I miss the guy I dated. He swept me off my feet and made me feel loved. Now im lucky if I get 'I love you' randomly from him. Where did he go? And why do all men do this?
Ive also noticed that things really do change when your married. Just the basics include bill sharing, learning eachother home habits, grocery shopping etc. You would think these would be the only things that change. Even if you do live together prior to marriage, things change. Will and I have been living together for almost 5yrs. We got married about 1.5yrs after we moved in together (his dad would joke and say 'why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free'), things definatly changed. Ive noticed there arent so many date nights. I havent been on a kid free event with him since Dec. Id love to spend quality time w/him but we dont find time to. Our 'quality' time is us watching tv with him controlling the remote and what we watch. We sit on opposite ends of the couch. No hand holding, no cuddling etc.
But lately Ive been feeling like hes distant from me. We dont cuddle before we go to bed, its almost a chore to kiss one another goodnight. I guess were just so wrapped up in our lives outside of our relationship (work, friends, kids, you get the hint), that we are just to exhausted to enjoy one another. Last night we were talking and I told him I wanted to DTD last night (those new to the shorthanded, that doing the deed). He basically told me no b/c Riggins is awake and he feels wierd doing that while hes awake. But we used to do that w/Kenzie and pop in a dvd. Fast forward to bedtime. We both head to bed and he starts caressing my back, im thinking 'hell yes, he changed his mind'. Did he? NO! He asked me if I was turned on, I replied yes and he stoped. WTF!!!!!! I just couldnt sleep from that moment, I got up and went into the living room and watched tv until 1230. I just could not fall asleep knowing that I got denied. I understand right now is a stressful time. We are now paying for 2 kids in daycare, and infant supplies. We cant get any type of help (hell, id take a sliding scale instead), b/c were both hard workers and make too much $ for the system. (again I have my own personal beef w/govt assistance) Plus we have more month than money! So I can see why he wouldnt want to do something like that.
But what about my needs? I need more than just physical. I need emotional as well. I need to know I can lean on his shoulder when im having a rough day, when I need time away from the kids, or be able to hold his hand b/c I want to. I miss the guy I dated. He swept me off my feet and made me feel loved. Now im lucky if I get 'I love you' randomly from him. Where did he go? And why do all men do this?
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
Things that make you go Hmmm
I got to thinking not to long ago. Ever notice how guys pull out the stops to be with you but as soon as they get what you want, all the magic is gone. Ive always thought about this. Its like they have this mentality that once you wow them, they dont have to do it anymore. SO NOT TRUE! What girl doesnt want to be suprised every now and then? My spouse tells me that I have to tell him when I want a date. Then I feel like theres no excitement because I already know what to expect. I want suprises, romance and be swept off my feet. His answer? 'since we've had the kids I cant afford to do that anymore'. Since when did love have a price tag? I would much rather have a romantic night in then to go out to dinner. Instead hes attached to the tv watching what he wants while I sit on the couch bored out of my mind. I dont know about any other women, but I want to be told how nice I look, or that im an amazing person, or he loves to be around me. Women need that reassuarance every now and then.
For me the last time we went out minus kids, was Dec of last year. Ive been itching to get some time alone with out both children but its hard. Mostly because of him. Dont worry weve got plenty of sitter options. Hes just to lazy to do anything about it. We even have gift cards to have a date night but we will prolly never use them, which actually breaks my heart. It sad when we could make a date not cost a dime, he still wont spring for it.
I just wish guys would open thier eyes and take notice of whats going on.
For me the last time we went out minus kids, was Dec of last year. Ive been itching to get some time alone with out both children but its hard. Mostly because of him. Dont worry weve got plenty of sitter options. Hes just to lazy to do anything about it. We even have gift cards to have a date night but we will prolly never use them, which actually breaks my heart. It sad when we could make a date not cost a dime, he still wont spring for it.
I just wish guys would open thier eyes and take notice of whats going on.
Saturday, April 4, 2009
Motivation Missing
All of a sudden, I dont want to do anything. I dont want to go out, I rather sit at home. I dont even want to work out, which is really rare. I think its because we went to the grocery store and I had to take Kenzie to the bathroom. I looked at myself in the mirror - I saw nothing but disgusting. I have a belly I cant stand to look at, I hate my new size, boobs and all. Nothing fits, I never feel good about myself, I pretend to so no one thinks anything wrong. I havent showered in 2 days, im tired constantly. I know I just had a baby but I hate this part. I do all the work around here, I dont get no thank you, or here let me help or even 'you look pretty today'. I need that kind of encouragement, I dont get it then I think no one notices and I go back into hiding. Ive been tearing up on and off today hoping Will would see me but obviously he didnt.
I know the first person I need to work on is myself but its hard when you had been told for 2 decades that your a worthless piece of S*hit that will never amount to anything in this world. It doesnt take 5yrs to come off, Its been a long rough process. The only time I saw myself as pretty is when I lost all the weight for the Ms Xpose competition, then I end up pregnant and gaining it all back 10fold.
Someone help me.
I know the first person I need to work on is myself but its hard when you had been told for 2 decades that your a worthless piece of S*hit that will never amount to anything in this world. It doesnt take 5yrs to come off, Its been a long rough process. The only time I saw myself as pretty is when I lost all the weight for the Ms Xpose competition, then I end up pregnant and gaining it all back 10fold.
Someone help me.
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
Welcome Intro
I guess before I started blogging, let me at least give you some background on me.
Hello! Im LuAyne Brown. I was born on Jan 11th 1985 at PG county hospital. I am the oldest of 3. My siblings are Tom (2/17/86) and Eileen (8/4/89), my parents have been happily divorced for over a decade. I graduated HS from Old Mill in 2003. I completed my post basic education at the Broadcasting Insititue of MD, where I majored in TV production. I am the proud momma of two little ones, McKenzie (11/5/04) and Riggins (2/1/09). I am also married to a wonderful man, Will (wedding date 7/8/06). I have a f/t job working for Honda of Bowie as an accounting clerk. I also run my own Mary Kay business (www.marykay.com/ljbrown06). I have a very busy life but thats the way I like it. I run on 2 speeds - non stop business and rest, ive got no inbetween.
Some other random stuff about me:
Fav colors - pink and yellow
Owns a Mini Cooper and refuses to trade it in for something more 'practical'
I like various types of music. Im not a big fan of country.
I love to pole dance (not stripping, I dont get naked)
I love meeting new people
I am not afraid to be me, if your afraid of being you, then who are you?
Hello! Im LuAyne Brown. I was born on Jan 11th 1985 at PG county hospital. I am the oldest of 3. My siblings are Tom (2/17/86) and Eileen (8/4/89), my parents have been happily divorced for over a decade. I graduated HS from Old Mill in 2003. I completed my post basic education at the Broadcasting Insititue of MD, where I majored in TV production. I am the proud momma of two little ones, McKenzie (11/5/04) and Riggins (2/1/09). I am also married to a wonderful man, Will (wedding date 7/8/06). I have a f/t job working for Honda of Bowie as an accounting clerk. I also run my own Mary Kay business (www.marykay.com/ljbrown06). I have a very busy life but thats the way I like it. I run on 2 speeds - non stop business and rest, ive got no inbetween.
Some other random stuff about me:
Fav colors - pink and yellow
Owns a Mini Cooper and refuses to trade it in for something more 'practical'
I like various types of music. Im not a big fan of country.
I love to pole dance (not stripping, I dont get naked)
I love meeting new people
I am not afraid to be me, if your afraid of being you, then who are you?
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